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The Loss

. Friday, October 31, 2014

A friend of mine lost his mom yesterday. I heard about it as soon as I woke up and was left reeling. What shall I do? What am I supposed to do? Shall I call him? Or shall I call his elder sister and ask about whereabouts? What shall I tell them even if I did call? What words and tone do I choose? How might he react? I myself was in a state of shock and remorse and then these questions. I have been crying since morning. I didn’t know if I would be able to talk even if I called him.

And then, I decided to call him, but then I could hardly talk for more than 2 minutes. I didn't want to weaken him anymore. Saying back , “I will call back”, I hung up. And then I thought I would leave him alone for sometime. That might appear rude, yet sometimes the best way to help people in pain is to let them be. Give them time to get over it. His loss is a tragic loss, and nothing I would say can replace the loss.

There is nothing I can do about this, is there? The dead do not come back, no matter how hard we wish they did. Yet I can’t help but want her back. Lots of people die every day, don’t they? Some are wished back and some not, still no one comes back.

And again as I take my hands off my friend’s cell phone number, I wish he hadn’t lost his mom, so that I could help myself from sympathizing with him, so that I could talk to him the way we used to and not feel awkward about it or anything else.

Anyway, the best I could do is: Dear Aunty, you were the best mom my friend could ever have had, and as much as I hope that you hadn’t gone, I sincerely wish that your son would be okay; that he’d have the courage to look after your family and himself too. I only hope he’d be happy again”

 

Breaking Taboos

. Friday, October 17, 2014

“Daddy, I am so scared.” Twelve year old Tanaya ran and hugged her father.

“What happened to my big brave daughter?” “Daddy, I guess it’s blood.. Daddy, I think I saw blood in my skirt today.”

Tanaya had lost her mother six months back and Ashutosh, her father was finding it difficult bringing up his daughter all by himself. He was madly in love with his wife and he had ruled second marriage options as proposed by his relatives. He was a doting dad and tried his best to be a mother and father to Tanaya.

“Daddy”, Tanaya spoke again. “Daddy, I saw blood in my skirt. Rashi told me that it is periods. I am on periods. Am I on periods daddy?” It was not exactly a comfortable question for Ashutosh so he tried to evade her questions at least for some time.

“Tanaya baby, do you want an ice cream? Chocolate flavour?” Tanaya made a face. “You know daddy, Rashi was right. She told me that you wouldn’t talk to me about this. Even she discusses all this with her mom. I wish mom was alive. I am sorry I told you about this. Just forget that I ever told you this.”

Ashutosh was startled and a little ashamed. He didn’t want to make Tanaya feel bad about something which was so normal. He just wanted to buy some time for himself. “Tanaya sweetie, why would you feel like that? I am your mommy too, remember? I wonder why Rashi would put such things into your head.”

“Then why wouldn’t you talk about it daddy? I am so scared. Will I die like mommy too?” “Oh no baby, never ever say that. You are daddy’s princess.” “But daddy.. blood?” “Come, we’ll go out, have ice cream and then discuss about this. This is a wonderful thing. Always be proud of this.” Ashutosh held his daughter’s hand and escorted her outside the door.

As Tanaya took a large bite off her orange flavoured ice cream, Ashutosh asked her to narrate the day’s happenings. “Daddy, I saw blood on my skirt today and I am very scared.” “Well little Tanaya, let me narrate a little story to you.” “Oh sure, daddy. Make it an interesting one.”

“It is an interesting one, kid. When your mommy was as little as you, she also saw blood on her skirt. She ran up to her dad who told her that she had received the biggest gift of her life that day.” Tanaya had her doubts. “How was it the biggest gift of her life daddy?” “Because that day she got periods for the very first time. It gave her the power to be a mother. It gave her you.” “Does that mean daddy, that I can become like mommy too?” “Yes, of course, you’re already like your mommy with your hazel eyes and chestnut hair.” “Thank You daddy. I love you. I’ll tell that annoying Rashi that my father is the best. He told me everything. I have some more questions but I’ll ask them tomorrow. I need some sleep.”

Ashutosh heaved a sigh of relief. He’d broken a taboo. Tomorrow he would be adequately prepared to break another taboo and talk to her about something society would not have approved of. As he put Tanaya to sleep, Ashutosh could feel his wife smiling at him. He had not been a good husband to her while she was alive but he would try his best to be a good father to their daughter.

Courtesy – Ministry of Humor

One of the beautiful story I have read recently. As a society we need to develop perspective, talk about things that we have been always uncomfortable about, let loose our apprehensions, free our anxieties.

It’s a beautiful world and we can definitely make it better.

Haider – The Hamlet Eulogy

. Saturday, October 4, 2014

Re-read the "Hamlet" (the adaptation). Came across this piece

"Hamlet remains unconvinced that the Ghost has told him the truth, but the arrival of a troupe of actors at Elsinore presents him with a solution. He will stage a play, re-enacting his father's murder, and determine Claudius's guilt or innocence by studying his reaction. The court assembles to watch the play; Hamlet provides a running commentary throughout. After seeing the Player King murdered with poison in the ears, Claudius abruptly rises and leaves the room: proof positive for Hamlet of his uncle's guilt."

And all this was represented in this 4 min long song. Penned in one of the most perfect way. - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_73kIBWN6rU

It takes real genius to transform something from what Shakespeare envisioned to a modern day ballad; keeping the message strong and impactful.

Hamlet is Shakespeare's longest play and among the most powerful and influential tragedies in English literature, with a story capable of "seemingly endless retelling and adaptation by others." The play seems to have been one of Shakespeare's most popular works during his lifetime and still ranks among his most-performed, topping the performance list of the Royal Shakespeare Company and its predecessors in Stratford-upon-Avon since 1879. It has inspired writers from Goethe and Dickens to Joyce and Murdoch, and has been described as "the world's most filmed story after Cinderella".

It needed a very traditional yet a modern treatment. Not sure how others would have treated it but a craftsmen like Vishal Bhardwaj, using the tools of metaphors, dark humor, soliloquies, monologues and emotions does perfect justice to this piece of literature.

Decide for yourself if you want to watch because such piece of art is tough to be portrayed on a commercial canvas these days.

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